If you would have asked me a year or two ago, I would have totally been like "Oh, actions speak louder than words, and you're saying this and doing that so either act louder or quiet the eff up."
Basically.
Whoever trademarked actions speak louder than words was not only probably extremely gullible, but I imagine they went their entire life ignoring what people said and only watching what people did. Unlike my one-to-two-year-old self, I'm no longer sold on the idea that actions speak louder than words. Instead, I prefer to obtain the healthiest balance possible.
Why does one thing have to be louder than something else, anyway? Why can't actions and words have the same value? I mean, if I was dating some extra hot girl, and she acted like she was all into me all the time by sending me beautiful flowers, and buying me fancy din dins, but every word out of her mouth was "I hardcore dislike your big ass. And I definitely despise the way you laugh." I mean...But her actions are speaking louder, right???? NO. But if she acts like she likes me, and she talks like she likes me, she most likely likes me. Like like like.
All I'm trying to say is in a real, and real healthy, relationship, a good balance is what works wonders. Of course, it would be AH-mazing if people could always act and speak in a coordinating manner, as to avoid all confusion. But, we are only human, and with that, we inevitably suck at relationships. So, that just can't happen. For the most part, we should be able to know how we feel. Then, we can 1) express how we feel (SAY WORDS) and 2) actually LIVE in a way that backs up what we say (ACTIONS). If there is ever a gap in what we say and what we actually do, then there's bound to be major problems. Because, well fuck, that's just confusing and annoying and ain't nobody got time for that.
So, here's to us human beings. Speakin' loud and actin' loud and coordinating the shit out of those two things so they actually make sense.
Besides, if actions REALLY spoke louder than words, people would charade their way through their wedding vows. And I can't stand charades, but I love weddings. That just won't work for me.
You're welcome.
